We leave moments after the caregiver arrives. Friday. 11 a.m. I feel relieved to go and guilty at the same time. He takes the long way around to the coast. We drive for two hours through beauty that should be enjoyed and photographed, but I keep nodding off. No pictures. No conversation. I am tired …
"Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you." ~ Anne Lamott Life rolls on, even if you're not ready, with or without you. Well, I guess you have to go. But I have not been rolling gracefully. So I'm going to try Anne's remedy and unplug. The theory …
To hope means to be ready at every moment for that which is not yet born, and yet not become desperate if there is no birth in our lifetime. Emily Dickinson One son lives on the east side of the country with his family. Three sons and their families live two hours (give or take) …
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I think I can talk about this now. I actually googled "how to be 70". Before I could type in the whole question, my words automatically populated the field. I am not the only one who has asked this on the internet! A lengthy list of links appeared. The first was an article from AARP's …
With a baby there are sleepless nights, diapers to change and constant feedings. The mess they make is contained to a relatively small space. With a helpless, aging adult there are sleepless nights, diapers to change and the challenge to find ways to feed them adequately when they've forgotten how to use knife and fork. …
Living in a rural community, caregiving for one well into her 90s... doesn't lend itself to daily excitement. When I look back on days of raising a family and earning a paycheck, I didn't think that time was exciting either. Yet now I see my best memories tucked within them. I've no idea how I will look back …
One thing God is trying to teach me... to not be afraid of what people think... about what I do and what I say. He wants me to care more about what He thinks... about what I do and what I say. I want that too. But the fear creeps back. A lot. Especially with this caregiving role I find …
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Day Twelve When I finish this project I will….. When this situation calms down I will…. I’ve spent too much time waiting for “when” . I’ve done the multitasking mom thing and survived, but generally I do – One. Thing. At. A. Time. Grow up Finish school Get a job Get married Have a family When family …
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Day Five I love old people. This is a good thing since I am one and getting more so by the minute. I was blessed to know two of my great-grandmothers... one of them even made it to my wedding... 43 years ago. She died a short time before the birth of my first son. Both these …
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